How to set boundaries (and feel good about it)
Because shocker, everyone thrives when their needs are respected
Welcome back! Today we are talking about one of the topics that comes up the most in my coaching sessions. I coach senior professionals across a range of professions and industries, and in many different countries, but this is one of those universal challenges that so many of us struggle with.
No, it’s not burnout, although it is closely related.
It’s also not meeting overload, although again, it’s related.
It’s the difficulty so many of us have in setting and reinforcing boundaries at work.
I’m willing to bet many of you have struggled with this recently in your role, maybe even this week? It’s a widespread challenge that often (but not always) lies on the other side of increased flexibility with our work - where, how and when we do it - it’s much more difficult to “switch off” or to speak up when our boundaries are crossed, because we somehow feel we should be “grateful” for the flexibility!
Reminder: online workshop on developing your leadership brand
We’re diving deep on this below, but first, I want to remind you of our first online workshop taking place next Thursday, October 24th at 12:00pm GMT.
I’m going to help you identify and develop your leadership brand, so you increase your visibility and impact, at work and in your career. And if you don’t think you need a “brand?” Remember… other people are going to shape it for you regardless. And it may be the reason you get overlooked for that next promotion…
If you’re a paid subscriber to Lead with Intention, please select that ticket option and your ticket will be free of charge. If not, it’s £10.00 to attend - a nominal amount that I like to call your “accountability payment” - basically it’s an effective way to help you show up to the workshop and do the work!
Why Boundaries Matter
When I say the word “boundary”, what’s your reaction? For some, it means an act of self care. For others, you might think of putting up walls or pushing people (and work) away.
Here’s what they are and why they’re so important. (From someone who now sets boundaries, but didn’t for many years, and it’s still something I struggle with now. However, I know and feel the difference when I respect my own. And I’ve learned to respect others too.)
Boundaries are about creating clear expectations that protect your time, energy, and focus, so that you can thrive in your role.